Last time you read a article we went over First Impressions 2, and today we are going talk about what I would call “The Approach.”
How to Approach a Woman 1.
How to Approach a Woman at a Bar or Anywhere.
Assuming you did everything I told you in First Impressions 1 and 2, we are ready to talk about approaching your quarry. Homo sapiens think and over analyze too much unlike animals that don’t worry but merely react. Sometimes men ask too many questions. Will she think I am forward? Do I play hard to get? Do I look good enough to make the approach? Shyness often overwhelms men and paralyzes them.
Ok guys, what are the right moves and when should you make them? Well, when in doubt apply this rule. When you spot the woman you want to meet, maybe your future bride, do this. You must immediately approach her. “He Who Hesitates Is Lost”.
I would like to share a story with you about a man, possibly like you. His name is Todd. Todd is a professional man in his late 20’s and is better than average looking. If I am working with you as a client, one on one, and we go out in public together to work on dating skills, I may not give any advice the first time. I like to get to know the man, what he does and does not do.
Todd and I were sitting in a restaurant at a table. There was a bar for people not eating or waiting to be seated. Todd spotted a beautiful woman sitting at the bar alone. Todd really wanted to meet this lady, in fact, he called her his future bride. I told Todd that is great now what are you going to do about it.
Todd, not really knowing what to do, starts to plan. At first he says, “Maybe I will just go up and say hello.” Then he decides, no that’s to boring I must think of something unique. Todd says, “I know, I will just go up and offer to buy her a drink. But, on second thought that would be to commonplace.” “I know I’ve got it… I will go up and tell her I am in love with her.” Todd stops and thinks some more. “No, that is to forward I cannot possibly do that.” Believe me Todd kept on coming up with all sorts of ideas. Keep in mind all along I am neither telling him to take action or not take action upon these ideas.
Now I looked over to the bar while Todd was thinking. I saw a man come up and approach the woman of Todd’s dreams. The man just sat down right next to this woman. Now as Todd is thinking about all these ideas for making the perfect approach he looked up and saw the man and woman together deep in conversation. Ok, Todd blew it big time. How many times have you been in the same position that Todd was in? What did you do? Don’t feel too bad for Todd though because after spending many sessions with him he now has more dates than he can handle. If fact, the last time I checked he was dating an incredible women and was very happy.
Guys if you spot an attractive woman, what is your body telling you to do? No, not what your mind is saying. Your body is most likely saying, “Get going!” The sooner I can be rubbing up against that woman’s body the better. Listen to your body.
One strategy is this. Let your body do some talking. Use your eyes. Look right into her eyes and hold it there for 3 seconds. She probably will look away, most women will look away even if they think you’re great; do not let that stop you. If she looks up at you again in about 5-45 seconds she welcomes your attention.
She may look around the room at other guys but that’s all right. Clock how long it takes for her to look back at you. Ok, guys, if it was less than a minute do the following. Give her a smile and a little nod. If she smiles back make your approach NOW. Now you’re about to start doing what Todd did at this point and that is to think too much about what you will do and say. Stop this immediately and get these thoughts out of your head. At this point if you don’t do something fast it will be apparent that you lack confidence. The longer you wait the less the chance is that you can successfully meet and hook up with this woman. To a woman, this is a most unattractive attribute, lack of confidence. If you wait, the chance you did have, and you did have a good chance, will slip away. You may not get a second chance either; so don’t count on getting a second chance with this respectable, great looking woman at the next meeting.
Have a good week
J. Joe
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