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  Here is one of the most common statements I get from my clients regarding their self-esteem. I think my self-esteem is fine. It is my confidence with the men that I have a problem with. 

  It is very important to understand that there are two kinds of self-esteem problems, situational  and characterological. Low self-esteem that is situational tends to show up only is specific areas, like your self doubt in your ability to successfully woo and seduce a man.  This self doubt can come from many possible sources. Some women are sure that the position they hold at work is not worthy of a attractive man's company. Ladies, I run into this problem all the time with clients.  I know female clients that make great money, have their home paid off by their early forties, have a MBA degree, drive a new car, and still they think that their job is the reason they cannot get a good man.  This is just one example of a situational self-esteem problem.

   For women, a very common situational self-esteem problem is that they are not completely comfortable with all or some part of their body. Ladies I have worked with women that are more than 15% overweight and they woo and get married to lean, attractive men. These women have completely worked out their self-esteem problems. Did you know that there are many conclusive studies that prove that just exercising raises a women's self-esteem without even losing a pound?

   A person might have confidence in herself as a parent, a conversationalist, and a sexual partner, but expect to fail in work situations.  Someone else might feel socially inept, but see herself as a strong and capable professional. Low self-esteem that is characterological in nature usually had roots in early experiences of abuse or abandonment. The sense of "wrongness" in this case is more global and tends to affect many areas of life.

   Situational low self-esteem is a problem ideally suited for cognitive restructuring techniques.  The focus is on confronting cognitive specific skills for handling mistakes and criticism. Since the client is not rejecting himself or herself globally, you will find that changing maladaptive thinking patterns will significantly increase a sense of confidence and worth.

   Since characterological low self-esteem derives from a basic identity statement, a feeling of being bad, changing a client's thoughts is not enough. Identifying and beginning to control the internal critical voice will help, but will not entirely undo the feeling of wrongness. Your main therapeutic emphasis must therefore be on the negative identity that gives rise to negative thoughts. The focus should be on developing self-compassion and a commitment to non-judgment. These positions can be reinforced through visualization and hypnotic techniques.

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