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Part 4 of Flirting

" NO mind games." You have undoubtedly heard this comment before.  Most people are afraid of, or say they don't like playing, "mind games." It seems we are looking for openness and honesty in communication, for the agendas to be clear and uncomplicated.  The problem is, we are constantly playing games in our mind: "Will I or won't I? "should I or shouldn't I" and so on, and strictly speaking every encounter with another person is a game in our minds to some degree.

  John Nash, the brilliant mathematician who lacked any social skills, was portrayed in the movie, A Beautiful Mind, which provided a wonderful example of what not to do.  In the movie he approached a woman in a bar and said, "I don't know exactly what I'm required to say in order for you to have intercourse with me, but can we assume I have said all that, and essentially we're talking about fluid exchange, so can we go straight to the sex?"  Her reply, not surprisingly, was to slap him.

  A flirt would never do this because they enjoy the "game" of flirting.  If you are interested in somebody, flirting with them lets you gauge their response and their level of interest in you.  Flirting can be like putting your toe in the water to check the temperature instead of diving straight in and getting a surprise.

  Your beliefs and attitude about flirting set the rules and boundaries about where it's safe or not safe to go, basically where the line is.  In fact, your beliefs and attitudes create the rules of all the games you play in life.

  Would you like to learn how to set the stage for flirting with someone and how to play the flirting game?  Then read on.  Learn the rules, practice some drills and develop winning strategies.  The right flirting attitude makes this game fun and safe, because the flirt notices others and genuinely cares for people.

  ARE YOU A FLIRT?
     Do you find it easy to talk to people you don't
      know?
     Do you enjoy watching people?
     Do you naturally give compliments?
     Do you always try to make eye contact with
      others?
     Are you tactile?
     Do you pick up vibes from others?
     Can you tell when someone is interested in you?
     Can you put a smile on someone's face?