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  Change Your State of Mind and You Will Stop Procrastination.  If You Can Stop Procrastination You Will  Have Taken a Powerful Step in Having The Man You Want.

This a series of articles about attracting great men and your self-esteem.

Make sure you read Part 1, Wooing a Man and Your Self-Esteem. Click Here.

Click Here. Part 2, Things and Actions That Can Stop You From Attracting and Keeping a Good Man. 

  I have worked with many single people as well as studying  extensive research studies on procrastination. Nothing will stop you faster from getting a man then the following: Poor state of mind, bad attitude, and procrastination, or, in other words, putting off taking action.

  Have you ever wanted to say more than "Hi Tom." He says back, "Hi Jill, how are things going?" The conversation goes on but you never really ask Tom that question you really are longing to ask. "Hey Tom, would you like to go out with me this weekend?" Or, you could say, "Tom would you like to go out  and have a drink with me?"  These are two examples of many thoughts that Jill is thinking but does not say.

 Next problem, by the time Jill says what she wants, maybe days, weeks or months later Tom has a new significant-other. 

If opportunity doesn't knock, build a door. 

You May be disappointed if you fail, but you are doomed if you don't try.

The Power of Thoughts

A simple thought. A few micromilliwatts of energy flowing through our brain. A seemingly innocuous, almost ephemeral event. And yet, a thought - or, more accurately a carefully orchestrated series of thoughts - has a significant impact on our mind, our body, and our emotions.

Thoughts cause responses in the body. Think of a lemon. Imagine cutting it in half. Imagine removing the seeds with the point of a knife. Smell the lemon. Now, imagine squeezing the juice from the lemon into your mouth. Imagine digging your teeth into the center of the lemon. Chew the pulp. Feel those little things (whatever those little things are called) breaking and popping inside your mouth. Most people's salivary glands respond to the very thought of a lemon.

For some people, thinking about the sound of fingernails on a chalkboard is physically uncomfortable. Try this - imagine an emery board or a double-sided piece of sandpaper. Imagine putting it in your mouth. Bit down on it. Now move your teeth from side to side. Goose bumps?

Thoughts influence our emotions. Think of something you love. What do you feel? Now think of something you hate. What do you feel? Now something you love again. We don't have to change our emotions - we change our thoughts, and our emotions follow along.

    Every good thought you think
is contributing its share
to the ultimate result
of your life.
         Grenville Kleiser

Now imagine your favorite place in nature. Where is it? A beach? A meadow? A mountaintop? Take your time. Imagine lying on your back, your eyes closed. Feel the sun on your face. Smell the air. Hear the sounds of creation. Become a part of it. Feel more relaxed?

Most people who took the time to try these little experiments know what I'm talking about.

Those who thought, "This stuff is stupid. I'm not going to try anything as silly as this!" are left with the emotional and physiological consequences of their thoughts - perhaps irritability, impatience, or even hostility. A few- because of their thought about books containing sentences such as "Now imagine your favorite place in nature" - put this book down, never to pick it up again. These people (bless their independent hearts!) proved the point as well as those who followed along with the "suggested" thoughts. The point: thoughts have power over our mind, our body, and our emotions.

Positive thought (joy, happiness, fulfillment, achievement, worthiness) have positive results (enthusiasm, calm well-being, ease, energy, over). Negative thought (judgment, unworthiness, mistrust, resentment, fear) produce negative results tension, anxiety, alienation, anger, fatigue.

To know why something as minuscule as a thought can have such a dramatic effect on our mind, body, and emotions, it helps to understand the automatic reaction human beings have whenever they perceive danger: the Fight or Flight Response. Coming Soon.

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