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 Part 1: Self-Esteem, Flirting and Seduction. 

  The vital role of self-esteem, in flirting and seducing a woman.

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem CLICK HERE    

  Nothing is more critical when attracting an attractive woman then your self-esteem. Here are some key points to understand. 

  If I take a man into a public setting to meet attractive women, without working through his poor self-esteem issues first, the following, is the likely outcome.  I think you would all agree, that if I tell you just what to say and do, things will work out just fine.  Wrong, with poor self-esteem no matter what you say, your self-doubt will come across either in your voice, your hesitation, your nervous body language, your fear of rejection, your sweaty hands, or your lack of action to do the right thing at the right time. You will have a hard time making good eye contact, and that important smile you need will not be there.  You will not possess a good flirting attitude.  Also, you will not be very approachable.  People with self-esteem issues  procrastinate. Self-doubt = procrastination, procrastination = loss of love and loss of opportunity.

Positive state of mind + knowledge + action = power.  

  You need all the above elements to be a powerful man of seduction. You can have a overall good self-esteem but perhaps with attracting and approaching women it is poor. A good self-esteem = confidence.

 If you take any one of the these elements away it will = failure 70% of the time.  Fear is a component of your state of mind.

  Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage.  If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it.  Go out and get busy.

Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem CLICK HERE 

  Self-esteem is essential for psychological survival. It is an emotional sine qua non - without some measure of self-worth, life can be enormously painful, with many basic needs going unmet.

  One of the main factors differentiating humans from other animals is the awareness of self:  the ability to form an identity and then attach a value to it. In other words, you have the capacity to define who you are and then decide if you like that identity or not. The problem of self-esteem is this human capacity for judgment. It's one thing to dislike certain colors, noises, shapes or sensations. But, when you reject parts of yourself, you greatly damage the psychological structures that literally keep you from being successful.

  Judging and rejecting yourself causes enormous pain. And in the same way that you would favor and protect a physical wound, you find yourself avoiding anything that might aggravate the pain of self-rejection in any way. You take fewer social, academic, or career risks. You make it more difficult for yourself to meet people, interview for a job, or push hard for something where you might not succeed. You limit your ability to open yourself with others, express your sexuality, be the center of attention, hear criticism, ask for help, or solve problems.

  To avoid more judgments and self-rejection, you erect barriers of defense. Perhaps you blame and get angry, or bury yourself in perfectionistic work. Or you brag. Or you make excuses. Sometimes people turn to alcohol or drugs.

   These articles are about stopping the judgments. It's about healing the old wounds of hurt and self-rejection. How you perceive and feel about yourself can change. And when those perceptions and feelings change, the ripple effect will touch every part of your life with a gradually expanding sense of freedom.   It's about healing the old wounds of hurt and self-rejection.

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