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 Part 2: Self-Esteem, Flirting and Seduction. 

  The vital role of self-esteem, in flirting and seducing a woman.

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Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem CLICK HERE    

  Here is one of the most common statements I get from my clients regarding their self-esteem:. I think myself-esteem is fine, it is my confidence with the women I have a problem with. 

  It is very important to understand that there are two kinds of self-esteem problems, situational  and characterological.  Low self-esteem that is situational tends to show up only in specific areas.  For instance, it might involve your self doubt in your ability to successfully woo and seduce a woman.  This self doubt can come from many possible sources. Many men are sure that the position they hold at work is not worthy of a attractive woman's company. Men, I run into this problem all the time with my clients. I was successful with women as a truck driver, bus driver, waiter, banker, and many other unattractive jobs in my life.  I know men clients that make great money, have their homes paid off by their early forties, have a MBA for a degree, drive a new car, and still they think that their job is the reason they do not get the hot women.  This is just one example of a situational self-esteem problem.

  For men a common situational self-esteem problem is that they are not completely comfortable with all or some part of their body.  Guys I have worked with men that are more than 15% over weight and they woo and get married to thin attractive women. These are men that have completely worked out all their self-esteem problems. Did you know that there are many conclusive studies that prove that just exercising raises a man's self-esteem without even losing a pound. I will be getting into many ways to raise your self-esteem later.

  A person might have confidence in himself as a parent, a conversationalist, and a sexual partner, but expect to fail in work situations.  Someone else might feel socially inept, but see himself as a strong and capable professional. Low self-esteem that is characterological in nature usually has roots in early experiences of abuse or abandonment. The sense of "wrongness" in this case is more global and tends to affect many areas of life.

  Situational low self-esteem is a problem ideally suited for cognitive restructuring techniques.  The focus is on confronting cognitive specific skills for handling mistakes and criticism. Since the client is not rejecting himself or herself globally, you will find that changing maladaptive thinking patterns will significantly increase a sense of confidence and worth.

  Since characterological low self-esteem is derived from a basic identity statement, a feeling of being bad, changing a client's thoughts is not enough. Identifying and beginning to control the internal critical voice will help, but will not entirely undo the feeling of wrongness. Your main therapeutic emphasis must therefore be on the negative identity that gives rise to negative thoughts. The focus should be on developing self-compassion and a commitment to non-judgment. These positions can be reinforced through visualization and hypnotic techniques.

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